Whats the Difference Between Fat and Obese?

A quick story

An aunt of mine, who is no longer with us, was very fun to be around. She was my mothers older sister, quite a few years older. My sisters and I loved it when she and my uncle would come to visit. She was short, and she had some weight on her. To me, she just looked stocky. She loved sweets, got me hooked on eclairs, and was a great cook. She made the best biscuits.

One day, she had her usual appointment with her doctor, because she had heart trouble and was getting a checkup. Her doctor casually referred to her as obese. Big mistake! My aunt snapped, I hate that word obesly (that is how she pronounced it). Just call me fat.

What BMI is obese?

What I was heavy in my late 20s, I measured my BMI, and it was 38. 38! I wanted to jump off a cliff, I was so depressed. Why was I depressed? Because 30 or higher is considered obese. 25-29.9 is considered overweight.

I just thought I was overweight.

I felt like my aunt. Just call me fat. A BMI of 24.9 or less is considered a healthy weight. Overwhelmed was what I felt for I had to work hard to chip away at a 38 BMI. By the way, some charts might be a point or so higher orlowe

What is BMI?

The body mass index (BMI)  is a number based on the weight and the height of a person. The higher the number, the more body fat a person has. The BMI was created by Belgium Statistician Adolphe Quetelet in the first half of the 19th century. This was before calculators, so the formula was made easy since it was done manually. The body mass index is a measure of body fat measured based on height and weight that applies to adult men and women.

How to go from obese (or morbidly obese) to a healthy weight

Its possible. I did it. I am from the South and was addicted to way too many carbs. Biscuits, gravy, macaroni and cheese, potato salad, spaghetti, nachos, popcorn, cookies, and the list went on. There are many resources to help. The biggest part of losing weight is the eating. Yes, exercise is good for us. It shapes our bodies. It helps with stress. We need movement.

Once we do not move, it seems we get all kinds of ailments. I have enough family members, young ones, who sleep half the day, and have physical problems. We have to take personal responsibility for our lives.

If one eats emotionally, food will never fill that hole that is inside you. I know from personal experience. One of my lovely sisters eats unconsciously. She is completely unaware of how much she shovels into her mouth. She will eat a whole pie, not at once, but over a period of time. She goes back for a piece, and another piece, and another piece, until its all gone.

Food is comforting to her when she needs another way to self-soothe herself as those of us who eat emotionally. I advice anybody who does this type of behavior to see a therapist or a nutritionist. Make sure it is someone who is compassionate, listens, and offers sound advice.

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Please get a good checkup. Make sure you get your thyroid checked, whether you are male or female. My thyroid was swollen in my throat and I had a small nodule on it. I was tired all the time. I ate more than I should, and because my metabolism was slow, I got bigger.

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When I was put on the proper medication, I got well, meaning my thyroid shrunk and the nodule disappeared. The medication balanced my thyroid hormones and my metabolism became normal.

However, I didnt drop weight. I had to exercise regularly and most importantly, I changed my eating from overeating to following the Zone eating plan. Started it in 1996 and my weight fell off. I did not starve. Do not starve! You will only lose muscle and water. Then if you start gorging, you will get even bigger.

How to adjust your eating

If you follow a book like The Zone,  Sugar Busters, or the South Beach Diet, they are all similar. There are many other ways of eating healthy. It is about replacing so called bad carbs like breads and pastas with good carbs such as vegetables and fruits. Start by eliminating something unhealthy and replacing it with something you will eat that is healthy. You do not have to live on bean sprouts the rest of your life. I dont. I eat bread sometimes. I just make sure it is balanced out with some protein.

I absolutely believe people who need to lose weight should find a way of eating and exercise they works for them. You have to have a high intention to lose weight. If you are morbidly obese, you can still lose weight. As I have said, get some help if you eat emotionally. Body brush as you lose weight to help with sagging skin. Again, please do not starve.  I cannot emphasize this enough. There are resources out there.

Go to the library and look at books for information if you need to and it will save you money. There are chair workouts if your size makes it hard for you to stand. I have discussed them before. T-Tapp and Oxycise are two of them. With Oyxcise, you can lay on the bed and do the breathing until you lose enough weight to stand and do the breathing and positions. Do not give up on yourself. If you choose to walk. Walk down the sidewalk and back. You will have to move, because our bodies are meant to move. Your health depends on it. If one has their health, they have everything.

Oxycise has Easy Does It Levels 1-3. These are slower breathing workouts and you do not have to do the whole thing. Start low and go slow and build your strength with these wonderful workouts.

The difference between fat and obese are shown in the BMI numbers. Obese is usually quite larger with a BMI of 30 and above until you see the morbidly obese at 40 and above. Check your BMI.  Follow the formula in the picture above.

Please know you can drop weight and become healthier at any size if you just make a choice to do so. Just make sure you have no physical issues that affect your weight like a thyroid problem. There are medications that put weight on people. Steroids are only one example.

Apple or Pear


When I was obese, I was shaped like pear. My weight was mostly in my upper thighs, lower abdomen and my behind. I changed my eating without starving and exercised. I never did hardcore workouts. I walked and did Callanetics for toning. It was the watching of my carbohydrates that helped my weight fall off. I am no longer shaped like a pear.